trauma
Trauma is word that is often misunderstood. Trauma can be anything that has happened to you that has shaped the way your view yourself or the reactions you have. It can feel like you’re carrying something, you never ask to. Even on good days, it’s there, quietly weighing on you. Sometimes you forget it’s there until something small—a sound, a tone of voice, a smell—suddenly brings the weight crashing forward, and you’re overwhelmed with feelings or thoughts that don’t seem to fit the present moment.
It can feel like your body remembers things your mind wants to forget. Maybe your chest tightens when someone raises their voice, or you freeze up in situations that don’t seem threatening to anyone else. Sometimes it feels like you’re “too much” for people, or like you have to hide parts of yourself to be accepted. There can be a push-pull: wanting closeness but being afraid of it, wanting peace but feeling restless, wanting to move forward but feeling stuck. You might find yourself replaying old memories late at night, or noticing that no matter how much you achieve, you can’t shake the sense that something’s missing or you’re not good enough. The inner critic comes out judging you and making you feel small.
And sometimes it’s quiet—more like a dull emptiness or disconnection. Life goes on around you, but you feel like you’re behind glass, watching rather than fully living. In short, unresolved trauma often feels like the past keeps spilling into the present, even when you wish it wouldn’t.
emdr/Healing
EMDR works by helping your brain reprocess painful or overwhelming experiences that may still feel ‘stuck’ and that impact your day to day. During an EMDR session, we use eye movements or other forms of gentle bilateral stimulation to activate your brain’s natural healing process. This process is similar to rapid eye movement sleep (REM) but you’re fully awake.
REM is your bodies natural way of healing. Ever have the experience of going to bed mildly upset about something and waking up the next day not thinking about it? Or thinking about it with more clarity? This is your brains way of throwing out the trash so to speak. With bigger instances your brain might get overwhelmed and doesn’t know how to process it, so it stores it for later in your body. That’s where EMDR comes in.
We mimic this process and this allows the memory to be stored in a healthier way—so it feels more like something that happened in the past, rather than something that keeps intruding into your present. Over time, the memories become less distressing, and you may notice more calm, clarity, and freedom in your daily life.
When healing starts, the contrast can be really powerful, even if it unfolds slowly. It doesn’t mean the past disappears, but it begins to lose its grip. Here’s what it can feel like:
Lighter inside. That invisible weight doesn’t feel as heavy. You might notice moments of relief—like taking a full breath without realizing you’d been holding it for years or not being as reactive.
More present. Instead of living in constant anticipation of danger or replaying the past, you’re able to notice what’s happening right now—laughing with a friend, savoring a meal, feeling the sun on your skin.
Calmer reactions. Triggers don’t hit as hard. The same situations that once made you shut down or panic start to feel more manageable. You may still feel the old echoes, but they don’t run the show.
Safer connections. Trust begins to grow. You can let people in without as much fear of being hurt. Relationships feel less like walking on eggshells and more like genuine connection.
A stronger sense of self. The shame or self-blame softens. Instead of “something’s wrong with me,” you begin to think, “I went through something hard, and I’m still here.”
I have done my own EMDR work so I know how intense it can and how healing it can be. Please reach out to learn more.